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Solving The Photo Scanning Problem

After a year of searching we found the best scanner to allow us to scan in the thousands of old photographs we have been saving.


In Addition we have been processing our photos using Adobe Lightroom.

And then storing the photos on Flickr to make them available to family and friends for download.

We also store our photos to a Drobo network attached storage device.

The drives we purchased for the Drobo are WD red 3TB drives designed especially for use in a NAS.

Mind Over Matter Your Life an Owner’s manual Episode 24


We have not done a podcast in a while for two reasons. First we have been busy and second because we did not have anything to say. We pledge to you that we will not do a podcast for the sake of doing a podcast we will only do a podcast when something we are doing in our lives is making a major difference and we want to share that thing with you.

Today’s topic is Mind over matter or if you don’t mind it doesn’t matter. This is a tricky piece of business for three reasons.

First because using the techniques we will cover you can either tell yourself a wonderful positive truth that uplifts your life or you can lie to yourself in a way that is counterproductive to success in life.

Second, the techniques are tricky also because you may have to “fake it till you make it” for a long time before everything kicks in.

Third, even when this kind of thinking becomes a habit, you will periodically slip out of it or fall victim to erroneous use of it.

Let’s cover the techniques first and then talk about ways to avoid the three pitfalls.


Technique #1. Living with an attitude of gratitude.

This is the glass half-full approach to life. When people ask me “How ya doin?” I often reply “I’m Grand”. I choose the unusual expression to emphasize the point to myself and to them. I actually feel better after saying “I’m Grand” than I did before saying it no matter how good I felt to begin with. If they ask why I am “Grand” I tell them that I woke up on the correct side of the sod this morning. Again I use this unusual way of expressing myself to talk to myself and get my attention. I’m saying to myself, each day is precious. Notice and enjoy everything you can while you can.

I complained about having no shoes until I met a man with no feet.

No matter how tough your present situation is there is someone somewhere that has it rougher than you. If you are listening to this podcast, you have more freedom, you have more wealth and you have more physical and mental wherewithal than millions of people on this planet.

A friend and colleague of mine taught me a powerful life lesson seven years ago. This man is handsome, tall, charming and intelligent. Seven years ago he was at the top of his profession in both skill and earning power. He has a beautiful and charming wife who is a successful surgeon and an amazing family as well. The two of them have a loving marriage and many of the perks of material success. Their lives changed in an instant seven years ago when my friend slipped, hit his head and became a quadriplegic.

His accident was a tragedy but he has persisted and is recovering some function. His battle with paralysis has led to new treatments and a non-profit effort to share these new techniques with those who might benefit from them.

His accident taught me that all of the abilities that I have can be lost in a moment. This realization helps me to give thanks for what I have while I have it. His courage and persistence and his desire to serve others is also an inspiration.



Technique #2

Turning a negative into a positive through reframing.  Stuff happens and most of what happens is either meaningless or the meaning is unknown to us. This does not stop us from instantly fantasizing a meaning and attaching that meaning to the event as though it were real. The fantasies we have can either empower us or disempower us.

I had the enjoyment of sitting in as my daughter coached her sibling. The coach is a headhunter with considerable experience with the hiring process and the coachee is someone preparing for an interview. The coach recommended the following “Pretend the person interviewing you has just come to work after being up all night with a sick child and on the way out the door got into an argument with her spouse”. The reason to do this is to take away any fantasy that the interviewer’s scowl, frown, inattention or whatever has anything to do with you.

Choosing a positive or neutral interpretation of “stuff” empowers us to stay resourceful and effective. Even when someone is actually attacking us this can be a useful strategy. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent Eleanor Roosevelt.

That which does not kill us makes us stronger, Nietzsche


Taking the adversity that life hands out and turning lemons into lemonade is helped by repeating things like the above Nietzche quote. All of make mistakes, all of us encounter problems from time to time. The question is, what are we to do with adversity and mistakes? One answer is to grow and learn from them. When you go through a bad patch in your life tell yourself “I have just paid the price of tuition, what degree can I get from this?

The reason for doing these things is to empower ourselves in situations where we could otherwise disempower ourselves.

In the interview example, if you concentrate on the frown etc. you will get nervous and uptight and blow the interview. If you create the fantasy described, you can remain calm and focused and perhaps find a way to better engage the interviewer.

The Nietzsche quote is a tool to empower us to get out of the pity party mode and into the mode of learning and moving on.

We cannot control other people, we can only control our reaction to them. Controlling our reaction by telling ourselves whatever story works is effective and empowering.

No One can make you feel inferior without your consent, Elanor Roosevelt.


Technique #3 Be here now

Be Here Now (or Remember, Be Here Now) is a seminal[1][2] 1971 book on spiritualityyoga and meditation by the Western born yogi and spiritual teacher Ram Dass.

Living in the past and living in the future are both destructive and disempowering.

Ruminanting about past events is a practice some people carry on for a miserable lifetime. These people can and do vividly recall negative events from their past so vividly that thy drag the negative into the present and relive it over and over again. If the negative event was the result of a bad decision or mistake they made they use it to beat themselves up over and over. If the negative event was something someone else did they dredge it up to refresh the anger and resentment they feel toward the perpetrator. While they are doing this the positive life they could be having in the present is passing them by. If you are not careful, you can be sucked into the pity party that makes this person a poor victim.

Agonizing about future events is likewise devastating to life in the here and now.

Being truly present in the here and now is liberating and empowering.

In the May 2013 issue of Prevention magazine Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, a brain research scientist describes the stroke that did massive damage to the left side of her brain and in so doing “silenced the dominating, judging voice of my left mind” and produced profound inner peace. She considers the stroke to be a blessing that produced nirvana. After years of rehabilitation she has regained the functions that were lost but she knows that inner peace is just a “thought away’.

Being present in the here and now allows us to savor food, wine, entertainment and the company of others to the highest possible degree. Being in the here and now is life itself. Living in the past is not living at all, it is squandering life.

But you say, what is the right way to utilize memories of the past and anticipation of future events?

Learning lessons from the past is vital to growth. Review negative events to determine their root cause and to extract every drop of educational value from them but otherwise let them grow. It is also enjoyable to relive the positive evens of the past to squeeze all the juice possible from them.

Planning and preparing for the future is also useful, healthy and productive but planning and preparing is very different from “monsterbating”

Anything we accomplish is accomplished in the here and now. Problems in the future are avoided by actions in the present. It is useful to assess risks that may exist in the future and after assessing them you can:

Accept the risk as reasonable and tolerable and move on

Take measures to prevent or mitigate the risk

Do something fundamentally different that eliminates the event that produces the risk.

For example we live in hurricane country.

We moved her knowing that and accepting that fact. The good news is that hurricanes give warning and a lot can be done to minimize the risk to life and property. I have just described options A & B

Option C would be to move to a location where hurricanes do not occur. Many of these locations are prone to wildfires, earthquakes, tornados, blizzards, plagues etc. so life is risky and we deal with it.


Technique #4 Getting outside of yourself

If you want to feel good about yourself and the world, one of the best ways is to stop thinking of yourself and start focusing on a purpose outside of yourself.

Volunteer at a soup kitchen to see what poor really is. Start a charitable foundation for whatever cause you believe in and find people of like interest to create a mutual support network.

Our daughter has found new meaning, purpose and satisfaction in life by starting a dog rescue non-profit. Through this effort she has found a group of like-minded people that serve as both friends and a support network.

My friend Mike Mahaney who has the spinal cord injury started a fund to enable other spinal cord injury sufferers to take the same intense training program that has given him greater capability and hope for further progress.


Avoiding the misuse of these techniques


A Pollyanna approach to life can result in a failure to acknowledge and address problems. Taken to an extreme this leads to a denial of real problems and a failure to act. The key is the maintenance of a healthy level of dissatisfaction.

When a healthy level of dissatisfaction is maintained you can establish priorities about what needs to be acted upon and then take appropriate action in the present to create a more positive future.

It is also important to look forward, anticipate risks and problems and plan accordingly but then to execute on those plans mindfully in the present.

Learn from the past, plan for the future and live with gratitude and joy in the present.

Check out FureverFree to learn about this unique foundation’s work to keep owners and pets together.

The best way to contribute to the spinal cord injury program is to contact the Coastal Georgia YMCA directly via their web site. Please have them reference the spinal cord injury program on any contributions. Or people can contact Mike Mahaney directly at 912 897 4625.

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I just finished Da Vinci’s Ghost to learn about the life of Leonardo Da Vinci and the Vitruvian Man graphic that serves as the cover art for this podcast.

I’m now listening to Michael Polan’s new book Cooked

Low-Carb Biscuits Sausage and Gravy in Honor of Jimmy Moore

I love a challenge. When we were interviewed by Jimmy Moore on Livin’ La Vida Low-Carb, I took on the challenge of making sausage biscuits and gravy in a way that would not violate a low-carb diet. This meal is one that we really have missed since going low-carb. I am pleased to report mission accomplished.

The biscuit recipe comes to us courtesy of Prevention magazine online free recipes at the bitly link below. The recipe is from Dr. Davis the author of Wheat Belly. He provided Prevention with an excerpt from his new cook book.Use the link to buy his cook book.


Follow Dr. Davis’s recipe for biscuits. It works great and we love them. They look a little weird when they come out of the oven but we cover them with gravy and sausage so only the taste and texture matter to us.

In a blender combine two cups of liquid (either two cups of whole milk, two cups of Half and Half or a cup of heavy cream and a cup of water) with one teaspoon of Thick It Up. This stuff really works and it contains zero net carbs. Use the above link to buy Thick It Up to help support this website and podcast.

We like bulk breakfast sausage meat. Cook whatever quantity of sausage any way you like but keep a quarter cup of raw meat to make the gravy. To make the gravy, brown the sausage meat in a skillet. Break the meat up into tiny crumbles as it browns. Add a pinch of salt and a generous grind of black pepper. We like a lot of black pepper in our gravy. Be careful not to burn the sausage. When the sausage is cooked add the milk and thickener from the blender. Heat will cause the dairy to thicken to a smooth and silky gravy.

Serve the gravy over the biscuits and top with sausage and enjoy.

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Episode 22 Vegetarianism



We are not medical professionals or nutritionists. We are simply reasonably intelligent people who can read. We share with you things we have tried that work for us. You need to be in charge of your own life which means educating yourself and making your own decisions. We offer opinions and you decide what is right for you. That is why we call it Your Life an Owner’s manual. You need to write your own manual for your life.


Vegetarian: Someone who eats nothing requiring killing animals for food (lacto/ovo) or nothing of animal origin (Vegan). There are many variations such as raw only, only things that fall off the plant first etc.

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Episode 21 Life Extension




We are not medical professionals. We are simply reasonably intelligent people who can read.

Geek Alert

This episode can get a bit scientific.

What Causes Aging and Death

Two Mechanisms that cause aging and death

Role of genetics and environment.

Mechanism one, the biological clock

  1. Normal distribution curve
  2. Potential role of insulin
    1. Low calorie life extension.

Mechanism two, free radical damage, oxidative stress.

  1. Oxygen is necessary for life but ultimately it is the cause of death
  2. As we process oxygen in our bodies we produce unstable forms of oxygen such as superoxide, hydrogen peroxide or peroxynitrate. Let’s talk about Hydrogen Peroxide.
    1. No longer recommended for cleaning wounds because it damages tissue in the wound.
    2. Unstable forms of oxygen can do damage by donating an unpaired electron or by taking one away from another molecule.
    3. When free radicals attack DNA, cross linking occurs and this in turn causes cancer.
    4. Cross linking between fat and protein molecules causes wrinkles.
    5. Oxidized LDL cholesterol causes plaque build-up in arteries that cause strokes and heart disease.
    6. Cross linking in neurological tissue is associated with Alzheimer’s and dementia.

What we can do to improve health, extend life, prevent disease and slow aging

  1. Real food
  2. Reduced exposure to pollution, environmental hazards.
  3. Exercise
  4. Adequate sleep and rest
  5. Hydration
  6. Maintain a healthy body composition

Additional insurance

  1. Good multi-vitamin/multi-mineral
  2. Fish Oil
  3. Protandim
    1. Stimulates the body to make antioxidants that are much more powerful than those contained in supplements.

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Episode 20 New Year’s Resolutions


Game Plan

  1. What did you like about the last year?
  2. What did you dislike?
  3. Make a list of all the things you could do to make more of the good things happen and fewer of the bad things
  4. Prioritize the list.
  5. Take the number one priority and analyze the forces surrounding the number one item.
  6. List all of the actions you could take to change the balance of forces.
  7. Select the actions that are likely to make the biggest difference. Give priority to those that take the least time, money, effort or willpower.
  8. Put the actions in chronological and priority order.
  9. Determine how you will measure your progress. (Cybernetic System)
  10. Execute the plan and monitor progress.
  11. Adjust your plan as necessary to create success.
  12. Celebrate small wins and enjoy the journey.
  13. Living the good life is the progressive realization of pre-determined worthwhile goals.

Your outcomes are the product of the decisions you make and the things you do consistently.


Fritata Recipe (Serves Four Generously)


8 Eggs

2 cups sliced colorful peppers

2 small zucchini, quartered lengthwise and sliced

½ large yellow onion or one medium

2 large tomatoes sliced

1 bunch fresh basil

1 teaspoon Italian seasoning

4 Tablespoons extra virgin olive oil

8 oz mozzarella sliced

4 oz grated parmesan

Red pepper flakes to taste

Salt and pepper to taste

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